How not to be easily offended

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It is easy to get your panties in the twist

It is so easy to get carried away with feelings. Trying to  figure out “what exactly did they say” or “what did they mean”. Social media and the types of conversation we have online easily add another layer to this.

Often it is our  own judgement that leads us on, when it comes to taking offence to something, someone has said.

Here are some tips that you can use in your life that will help you stay calm, comprehend and avoid dramatic situations.

Tip One

If I’m taking what someone says too personally, is it what they are saying OR what they are triggering for me that needs to be dealt with?

Tip Two

Look beyond what someone may be saying or how they are behaving. There is probably a good chance they are going through some stress in their own lives. It’s not necessarily about you.

Tip Three

Suspend your judgement, and be open to possibilities. If we quickly jump to conclusions, we’ll develop assumptions instead of getting the full story.

Tip Four

When we think ‘it’s everyone else’s fault’ then we are powerless to change anything. Think about what is my part in the situation, and what or how can I change that. That’s all I can do – change how I think or feel about it.

Tip Five

Remember, we are all perfectly imperfect. If we believe people should live up to our expectations, then we will encounter disappointment. William Glasser said “I have noticed that happy people are constantly evaluating themselves and unhappy people are constantly evaluating others”.

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RELATIONSHIP CHECK IN

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Remember what initially attracted you to your partner and what build your relationship

Was it that smile? was it the way they approached you? was it the small things they did when you were together? may be a peck on the forehead even if they were walking only a few steps away. Your relationship begins with you and what you choose to prioritise.

Going down memory lane can remind us that we are more than our mortgage, bills, and responsibilities.

Somewhere inside of us there is always part of us that wants that fun, adventure, and spontaneity rejuvenated.

These steps will help you realise and prioritise feelings and emotions in your relationship and highlights things that you may want to address.

Check-up one 
UNDERSTAND and APPRECIATE how the two of you are similar or different to avoid criticising or judging each other. It’s ok to have shared and different interests. Do you support the interests of your partner even though you have no interest in it?

Check-up two
CHECK-UP on your progress for how open or confident you are at sharing your feelings, thoughts or desires to your partner. Are there are any topics that you find are really hard to open up to with your partner? Remember, your partner is not a ‘mind-reader’. Do I trust that my partner will listen or hear what I am saying?

Check-up three
IDENTIFY the amount of quality time you spend with your partner. Be clear about your commitment to the relationship. Remember that there is a difference between quality and quantity! Are you APPRECIATING and UNDERSTANDING the need for some space for separate activities too?

Check-up four
CHECK-IN with how you feel about yourself. The most important relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself. So to feel good about your relationship, you need to feel good about yourself. This AVOIDS relying on the other person to make your life ‘complete’!

If you’d like to book a one on one session please feel free to call us on (08) 9448 3210 

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DECLUTTERING YOUR LIFE // TIP TUESDAY

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DECLUTTERING AND BECOMING PRODUCTIVE

Clutter can build up in all sorts of shapes and forms and can lead to stress in many facets of life

So today we are sharing with you 5 questions to ask yourself when you are feeling burdened tasks and to do lists. Remember procrastination can subside the tension at a particular moment but never actually solve the issue. Ask yourself these questions and look at your environment to better enable your mind and self for better productivity and well being. Decluttering can lead to many answers…

  1. Do you TOLERATE excessive household clutter obstructing the flow of your energy or would you PREFER to get rid of any physical clutter that you no longer need by selling, giving or donating them to create space in your house which can then boost your motivation to do something you’ve been putting off?
  2. Do you TOLERATE those unfinished projects that prevent you from beginning new things which are now more relevant to your life or would you PREFER to take the time to consider if they are even worth finishing, if they have served a purpose, and are they ready to be archived, deleted or put through the shredder?
  3. Do you TOLERATE chaos or would you PREFER to de-clutter and organise your home or work environment to help you feel ordered?
  4. Do you TOLERATE that clutter can also lead to procrastination, because when everything is everywhere, we tend to find a distraction to avoid the task. Or would you PREFER being a bit more organised so that your external environment mirrors your internal mind to create a sense of calm to look at what else or how else we could be doing things in our lives that would serve a higher purpose.
  5. Do you TOLERATE needless stress in your life or would you PREFER to look at what commitments you can reduce, delegate or eliminate especially when what you are doing is to the detriment of your own wellbeing?

We share “TIP TUESDAY” every fortnight so make sure you come back,

If you’d like to book a one on one session please feel free to call us on (08) 9448 3210 

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TIP TUESDAY: NIP IT IN THE BUD

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Here are five tips to help resolve issues and avoid them getting out of hand.

Tip One
Stick to the issue ‘at hand’ so that you avoid venturing into a right/wrong or win/lose scenario where it ends up getting ‘out of hand’.

Tip Two
Stop rehearsing the ‘old stories’ that do not belong to whatever the current situation is. You’ll get nowhere fast if you keep rehearsing the old stuff. Learn to get off ‘that stage’ so you can start writing a much better, healthier, productive script for how to deal with conflict in your life.

Tip Three
Two things you can do if there is an issue – avoid or confront. Remember that which we resist will most persist. Spend a maximum of 20% on identifying specifically what the issue is and 80% on what the options, solutions or opportunities are for you. What can you learn from this situation? How can you grow so history doesn’t keep repeating itself?

Tip Four
Move away from the need to be right which means the other person is wrong. This makes a situation become polarised without any middle ground to negotiate. It can also take away the opportunity to develop solutions.

Tip Five
Think about the way we speak or communicate an issue. Our interpretation of an issue could be the opposite of how the other person interprets it. This in turn creates bigger problems. The first step is to make sure you are both on the same page. Share what you both think, feel or believe is your part in the issue, and what you can do about it.

We share “TIP TUESDAY” every fortnight so make sure you come back,

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Professional Supervision for Mental Health Workers and Counsellors

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Professional Supervision is a mandatory requirement of most professional organisations, and should be written into any contracts where a counsellor is employed. Professional Supervision is critical to ensure a Counsellor or Mental Health Workers are supported both professionally and personally to ensure safety for them and the clients they work with. It is a way of developing their work, improving outcomes, minimising risk for both client and professional.

Graduates December 13th, 2014

Graduates December 19th, 2014

Graduates December 19th, 2014

Supervision is an avenue to allow for a Counsellor or other Mental Health Worker to speak with someone who is trained to identify any behavioural and/or psychological changes in the Counsellor or Mental Health Worker that could cause an inability to cope with their work with the clients. A Supervisors role is to challenge and inform a Supervisee to improve their work and ultimately improve client outcomes. The Supervisor is responsible for observing the Mental Health and work practices of the Supervisee, and further develop their skills, to protect the clients from poor work practices and outcomes.  There is a difference between internal and external supervision.  Both have a different perspective, and objectives and are equally important for the counsellor or mental health worker to receive.

Happy Graduates from 17th November 2014

Happy Graduates from 17th November 2014

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Graduates 26th June 2015

Being a qualified and experienced Counsellor does not automatically qualify for a person to be a Supervisor. This is a specialist area, needing training, experience and advanced communication skills to be an effective Supervisor.

We offer professional training for those who wish to know more about Supervision, currently work with Supervisees wanting to enhance your skills, or someone who is about to be in this role.

3 Day ACA Accredited Clinical Supervision Training

This training encompasses approximately 24 hours of face to face supervision training and 40 hours of pre-workshop study. The training culminates in a formal assessment phase. This meets the specified criteria for the current ACA Supervision Training Standards (2015).

Supervisor Training Course will enable the graduate, as a minimum, to:-

  • Define the role of a Clinical Supervisor; identify the goals of supervision;
  • Describe the supervisory relationship;
  • Demonstrate the skills required for conducting diverse supervision interventions;
  • Provide effective evaluation; present effectual feedback to supervisees;
  • Successfully undertake a variety of supervisor administration tasks, and address the ethical and legal considerations of supervision.

Overview of Program:-

  • Theory of Supervision
  • What is Professional Supervision?
  • What skills does a professional supervisor need?
  • What will be covered in a session of professional supervision?
  • What are the different settings and forms for professional supervision?
  • What are the Supervisor and Supervisee’s responsibilities?
  • Legal and Risk management issues in the Allied Health Industry
  • Legislation
  • Front-line management professional supervision
  • Issues in applying Professional Supervision
  • Resistant supervisees
  • Armstrong Model
  • Note taking and record keeping
  • Mental Health Issues and Supervision
  • Transference potential
  • Stress, Anxiety, Conflict and potential Burnout.

Follow this link for an application to register/enrol in our upcoming training:
http://www.metrocounselling.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/Metro-Counselling-Supervision-Course-flyer-and-application-2016.pdf

PLEASE NOTE: March Class is filled 

What our graduates have said about the three day ACA Approved Supervisor Training 2014-2015:

“Great workshop, very valuable information, and I look forward to putting it to practice”.

“Great pace- good learning environment”.

“Very well presented. I was alert and awake wanting more learning, meant I could stay all day, I got a lot out of the course. I learned how to apply strategies and to just be yourself.  Excellent Presenter”.

“Excellent course, well presented and structured. Practical role plays were invaluable”.

“The presenter was excellent-confident, knowledgeable, experienced and encouraging. Admin staff were very kind and helpful. I would recommend this course to others.”

“Thank you Carolyn for running such a wonderful course that is very practical. I found this to be one of the best courses I have done, and got a lot out of it.”

“Engaging process for all 3 days”.

“Thank you a very worthwhile experience. Very valuable”.

“Great presenting, enthusiastic, knowledgeable and kept the energy up. Really enjoyed.”informa

“I believe that the sideways learning, experiential learning was invaluable. With this style of learning the level and experience of people attending is imperative. Thanks for a fun and interactive workshop”.

“Presenter- a delightful experience with good knowledge, sense of humour, and supportive- Excellent information. An experience I would never have missed, very informative, challenging and a good adventure”.

“Worth giving up 3 days A/L and a day off. Learned things of real value from a presenter who has wonderful range of skills and experience”.

“Carolyn excellent presenter-Ray and Carolyn a good source of knowledge and ideas. Carolyn very positive”.

“Thoroughly enjoyed myself. I loved the emphasis on experiential learning. Thank you Thank you”.

“An excellent learning experience. The facilitation was wonderful, presented with humanity, insight, and an enormous depth of clinical experience. I loved the process and the chance to learn from others. Thank you so much”.

“The therapy really came to life once we started working on scenarios and applying it. The presenter was fantastic at respecting the group dynamic-very insightful. Enjoyed it immensely”.

“Well presented, interesting, lots of information delivered in a fun but authentic way”.