Some of the issues that can affect your marriage include:
- Absence of Communication
- Time Management
- Family issues
- Money or finance problems
- Trust issues
- Boundary Problems
- Infidelity & Commitment
- Media Influence
Couples are feeling so busy and stressed by feeling pulled into multiple directions that the quality of the marriage is declining. Most couples will face the issue of lack of time prioritising one another at some point.
Individuals decide to stay in a loving relationship for the reason that their expectations are mostly met and they judge that they are better-off inside the marriage than they would be without it. More than wealth, children, or any additional conjugal distress, the most common issue couples struggle with is sexual intimacy. Once someone starts to feel their marriage is no longer intimate, a great deal of the joy leaves it. Sometimes the issue is lack of interest or opportunity, but whatever the case, when it falters, spouses really do suffer.
The foundation for every solid marriage is trust. A question you might ask yourself is “do I really trust my partner?” Do you trust your partner’s decisions? Do you think your partner is capable of making vital decisions for the both of you? If you can’t rely on your partner with life altering decisions, it’s obvious that you don’t respect your partner or their opinions. And that’s never a good sign in a long term marriage.
Other big issues couples face are boundary problems. Dissimilarities between partners will always be there as we can all have different values, priorities and ways of handling issues. There are times in a marriage where one person is in the habit of trying to impose their ideas on the other person. Spouses so often try to change the other in the name of helpfulness or we can tend to see that our way is the right way. The truth is, the only person you can change is you.
Sexual infidelity is perhaps one of the most painful issues that couples face in a marriage. Both sides have to cope with very powerful feelings that may feel overwhelming and very hard to deal with. Often there are times when spouses feel more betrayed by emotional infidelity because it’s not just about sex. Emotional affairs are about an intimate relationship with someone outside the marriage. If only they had learned how to talk to their partner about their needs, it could have been avoided.
It’s not uncommon to question your marriage. Staying friends is more difficult when there is ongoing conflict which leaves you feeling angry, disappointed, frustrated or hurt. This distress often brings out the worst in us. This may lead to one or both partners questioning for the first time whether they are in the right relationship.
Our insight as to what a strong marriage looks like and how to achieve this is shaped, in part, by the media. But we have to understand that many couples have issues that they deal with on a daily basis. Some issues may be different but we generally face some of the same problems.
Marriage counselling can assist in avoiding these problems if entered into early, or assist with repair, and enhancement of your relationship.
Seeking professional assistance, marriage counselling.
It is important that you seek help from someone who is trained and experienced in working with marriages. Obviously partners will try to deal with marital issues themselves, but when problems continue to occur, it becomes clear that professional help is needed.
Should you require further information, or if you wish to book an appointment, please do not hesitate to contact us.